Leadership

You’ve hit every revenue goal you set this quarter. People respect you. From the outside, you look like you’re thriving. But inside? You can’t remember the last time you felt calm. You’re making decisions at 11 PM that you question by 6 AM. You get irritated with others over small things. You cancel plans because […]

You closed three deals last month. Your pipeline looks strong. From the outside, you’re crushing it. So why does your body feel like it’s running on fumes? Why can’t you enjoy dinner without checking your phone every four minutes? Why does a simple client text at 8 PM send your heart rate through the ceiling? […]

You closed the big deal. The quarter ended strong. The team is intact. So why does your chest still feel tight at 9 AM? Why are you still checking Slack at midnight? Why does every email notification feel like an alarm bell? Because your nervous system hasn’t received the memo that the emergency is over. […]

You’re at a friend’s holiday gathering. Your phone is in your pocket. But your mind is running through the client email you haven’t answered, the proposal that’s sitting in draft, the decision you need to make by Monday morning. You tell yourself to be present. You mentally scold yourself for thinking about work. And then, […]

You pride yourself on being decisive. Fast. Action oriented. But what if the speed you’ve mistaken for strategic clarity is actually your nervous system trying to outrun a threat that doesn’t exist? Here’s what I’ve observed across 15 years of clinical work with high performing business owners: the decisions you make under sympathetic dominance feel […]

You built a business that runs without you. You hired the right people. You systemized the chaos. You finally have the infrastructure you dreamed about three years ago. So why do you still feel like you’re running on a treadmill at 3am? This is the conversation I’ve had with dozens of high performing business owners […]

You’ve built a business that only works when you’re in crisis mode. Not because you planned it that way. But because every system, every process, every decision point was designed while your nervous system was in sympathetic dominance. You created structures that require your hypervigilance to function. Your business doesn’t just depend on you. It […]

You know the signs by now. You wake up already planning. Your jaw is tight before your first meeting. You’re making million dollar decisions on four hours of sleep and whatever energy you can borrow from caffeine and adrenaline. You tell yourself you’ll slow down after this quarter, after this launch, after you hire that […]

Three months ago, I sat across from a VP of Operations who told me something I hear constantly: “Our leadership team spends 18 hours a week in meetings, and we still can’t make a decision.” He looked exhausted. His team was brilliant, experienced, credentialed. But every strategic conversation devolved into what he called “intellectual wrestling […]

You’ve trained your team. You’ve documented the processes. You’ve delegated the tasks. And yet, at 11 PM, you’re still the one triple checking the deliverables, rewriting the emails, and fixing the “small things” that somehow only you can see. Sound familiar? Here’s the uncomfortable truth: You’re not just being thorough. You’re running an invisible script […]

Last month, a VP I work with confessed something she’d never said out loud: “I used to wake up with ideas. Now I wake up exhausted by the thought of my inbox.” She wasn’t depressed. She wasn’t unmotivated. She was physiologically bankrupt. And she thought it was her fault. If you’ve ever felt guilty for […]

Most business failures happen because we solve the wrong problems. We see a drop in sales and immediately blame our sales team. We notice high employee turnover and throw money at salaries. We experience quality issues and crack down on manufacturing. These solutions feel logical in the moment, but they rarely work because we are […]